Recreation First Love vs. Best Friend

I'm going through a crisis and I was hoping I could get yalls help so Help What's going on is I've found my first true love and I'm in love only problem is he's my Best Friend's ex. So now my best friends mad at me(who I made a pact with a guy would never come between us) and the whole deal is tearing me apart and I don't know which party is going to get the bigger half in the end. and to make things worse I'm moving in two weeks away from my true love and my best friend, so whatever I do I have to do now and I can't just leave. God, it's so nut's
anyway,Thanks for any advice you might have
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J2X is right..cause whatever you do in pain, in doubts and happiness your bestfriend will always be there for you..besides does your true love really love you or is he playing around?..while your bestfriend is always there whatever happen specially when you're heart broken! so for me your bestfriens comes in first then your boyfriend.

 

Us men have a saying: "Never screw your buddy in order to screw a girl."

The same rule applies here. Loves come and go but friends are much harder to find and keep.

 

Yeah, as we say on the floor, "bros before hos". That probably doesn't apply to you, but you get the idea.
You have to ALWAYS stick to your friends, and keeping your word is extremely important. Remember that when things get really ugly, your friends are likely to be the only ones there to back you up.
Also, young love is fleeting, but true friendship is eternal.

 

But of course, it depends on how good your friendship is with your "best friend." Cuz some people's best friends aren't that great anyway. Look at my friends--I'm not that close with them, so if I had to , I could probably betray them just to be with my true love. As for my best friends, they come and go! I've never had a best friend last for more than a year, when he/she moves on (they always have tons of other friends to be best friends with).

If your true love loves you back and wants to be with you, you need to see if you're actually worthy of such a blessing. Hey, some people really don't deserve to have a costly relationship (and some b****es and d***h***s I know don't deserve any relationships). So are you a good person? Or have you broken so many hearts that everyone already knows you wouldn't last in another one?

 

nice one Novus

thats the first time i've ever heard that one.

well anyway do as you feel is right. true friend ship will last forever but you never know how long this "LOVE" of yours will last. :glazed:

are you truly willing to give up friendship?
it might not even trun out that way maybe your friends upset now but she'll get over it sooner or later

~hopes~

 

I have to say something about this. If it is your true love then go for it. You can find love but not your true love once again. I believe there is one person out there that is your equal, your Yen for your Yang so to speak. Love maybe easy to find BUT true love isn't. True love happens once a life time; cherish it while you still can.

Will you ever have doubts about this guy or girl? Do you compare him or her to other people you may have a crush on? Do you think about him or her a lot? Does this person make you feel better about yourself? Do you trust this person completely? If you answered No, Yes, Yes, Yes, and Yes congrats you found your true love.

I did find my true love once. I let him slip by. I have loved afterwards but I quickly feel out of love (something that shouldn't happen with love). I have never loved a man like that since. I know I never will. I sealed my heart away because that is the easy thing to do. I let my true love slip by please don't with yours.

You should really ask him or her out. If the he/she/it is really your best friend then they should understand. If they don't understand then your friendship will eventually fall apart. He is your best friends ex boyfriend. AN EX!!!! Tell her to get over herself already. It is not like you are going after her boyfriend.

Think about yourself kiddo. You are the most important person you know.

 

"first true love" implies there will be more. That first serious relationship or infatuation always seems bigger than it really is, seems more important than anything.

Sucks to just drop it because your friend might have a problem with it (what's it to her anyway? ex ffs), so take what I said as advice related to moving away. Whatever the reason, in the end it won't be too tragic to lose that 'first true love'

 

Why should she be mad at you when she broke the pact? The pact is that a guy would never come between the two of you, right? Why should this situation break it? It's her ex, that means they broke up and now he's up for grabs. Its not like you cheated with him. Its her fault if she can't let go.

I still dont understand how she's mad at you cause you like a guy. She had the boyfriend, not you. Isnt that breaking your pact?

But does the guy like you back? I say, before its too late, tell him the truth no matter what your friend thinks. You can't change what you feel, its your best friend's fault for being immature about it.

(Please take in mind that I have never had a relationship before and is now praying that this guy I like leave his girlfriend while I'm kinda flirting with him...kinda... Oh, and in the eighth grade i had a crush on this guy and his girlfriend was kinda my friend...but that didn't stop me......in the end we just became good friends and his girlfriend broke up with him, but he soon found another girlfriend, and I left for another school )

 

Re: Re: First Love vs. Best Friend

How old are you anyway? If you're in your twenties or thirties, then it's understandable that you've been around the block a few times and can tell the differences between a crush, a big crush, a love, and a true love. But if you're just still in high school or even middle school, then both your pact with your friend and your "true love" are most likely just foolishness.

 

But is this truly her first love, or simply melodramatics/heavy infatuation?

 

if your best friend cant understand that youre in love, maybe shes not your best friend...

 

Very good advise Nephy....Dark_Dreams...the only advise I can give to you in a situation like this is try to make a mence with your best friend...I just resently went threw something like this...It will pass....a friend is more important than a relationship....at this age.

Misao

 

I've found friends easily, even though they're not close ones, but I have never found love yet.

 

Stick with your friend.
A love/ relationship can ruin a lifelong friendship faster than the blink of an eye.

 

This isn't exactly been a life long friendship. We met at the beginning of last years school year and haven't been close friends till the end of last year. however I have been looking back a lot on our friendship and i relized that even though I've always been there for her and she's almost never been there for me. But maybe that's because I never really show it when I'm having a problem. This guy however always seems to know when somethings wrong and I always know with him. I'm scared I'm throwing away something really special for a mediocre friendship. But still...........
Well then,
bye bye
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