Recreation How do you dance?

Yea, well, here's the situation. I like this girl at my high school, and I'm thinking about asking he to home coming dance, but the problem is, I don't know how to dance. How do you? I know slow dancing, but I think everyone knows that. And if I ask her and she says yes, I'll look like an idiot at the dance because I can't. But I wanna go because I wanna get to know her better and yea, I think you get the picture help?

 

Seriously, you don't even have to know how to dance to actually do ok out there. The fact that you go out and dance in itself is enough for most women, as it shows you have the stones to make a total idiot out of yourself and just not care.

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Its worked for me, anyway.

 

well then ask her to dance during a slow dance, and hang out with your friends durring the fast songs-if you dance all the songs, she'll think your a show off -at leat that's the situation most of the time-trust me on this pliz.

 

Well, I wanted to hang with her during the entire dance, like to show I wanna be with her, and I was thinking about asking her like a date.

 

Hmmmm, now there's a tough 1, well i guess she'd love to be asked like that, well, then y don't u try following her lead, although there's a chance she might not dance the fast songs?!

 

Don't hang out with her TOO much. Have some time when you're with friends. Be a gentleman, but not a clingy pansy.

 

Oh yea, missed one important factor, none of my friends are going.

Also, I still don't know how to dance.

 

now there's a problem, well... do you have some friends you don't hang out too much with that are going? if so hang out with them or try to make new friends

 

I still don't know how to dance.

 

Dancing, huh? What kind of music is your school into? If anything like my old high school, your dance is gonna have lots of Top 40 songs, mostly hip-hop, pop, dance hall, a few techno/Ibiza/salsa, a few punk/rock, maybe even a swing song. (Over here in Hawaii, they also throw in a lot of reggae and island music as well.) Expect only a few slow songs, like less than 3 per hour. (At communities dances I went to, only the very last song was a slow one!) So don't rely too much on the slow songs.

As for dancing, it's very easy to spot a fake. However, most people really don't know how to dance well, so they just do the same move over and over. For starters, don't stare at your feet, don't make a confused expression, and just have fun. The main thing is that you hit the beat constantly. You'll notice that it looks nicer and feels more natural when you keep a balance with your center of gravity. That means, if you swing something in one direction, counter balance it by swinging something in the other direction. (If only I had a webcam to show you right now.) Well, that's just a lil theory I came up with just now. But yeah, watch MTV, check out other people's moves, try em in front of a mirror in a dimly lit room. (School dances are almost never lit up.)

When the DJ puts on a hyping song that makes everyone scream, you gotta get into it a lil more. That's when you can play with arm movements, hot-stepping, etc. If you don't know what to do, just go side to side with your steps, but put some impact and style into it. Like bring your foot down same time as the beat. Once you got it going, you can start slowly adding in lil variations, or bring your head into the picture and bounce it (not perfectly moving it up and down, but sort of in a smooth, side-ways-circular-stirring motion.)

When it comes to booty/freak dancing, show off a lil bit of masculinity, cuz sometimes it's easy to end up looking feminine when your hips come into play. Yeah, don't be ashamed to use your hips, just don't laugh, don't do it too wildly. And bring out a lil bit of gangstah when you do it. Oh yeah, and if your girl is with you then, get a lil freaky with her instead, but not too much. You don't have to touch bodies, but mainly loosely put your arms around each other (in sort of a "ooh I wanna put em around you but you too hot to handle!" sort of way), and just "work" your bodies. (You know what I mean, sort of like a gentle swish to the left, then right, then left, kinda like you're a big paint brush, and the bristles are hanging from your hips--you sort of "paint" a V constantly, haha!) The dance floor might get really crowded to the point where everyone's huddled together, with their arms close to their body but still in front of them. People can still dance like that by just using your knees to lightly "bounce" to the rhythm. And if there's booty music playing, then sure, go ahead and rub up against her a lil bit. Not like a dog, but like a gigolo. Hands on her waist, read her movements (too wild bodies can hurt each other) and sort of match her speed and rhythm. Yeah, that's it. See, now you're really dancing now!

And if all else fails, bounce your torso up and down to the beat, and sway left and right at half the speed of the beat. Stick your loose fists in the air in front of your chest, and let your body's rhythm sway em in a natural look.

 

Uhhh....I'll try what you said, thanks, I'm just so nervous. I don't wanna look like an idiot infront of her, cuz I'm thinking about asking her to be my girlfriend later on.

 

Just dont worry about it. Thats what will make you screw up.

 

okay yeah
DO NOT WORRY ABOUT IT!!!
its the most annoying thing ever when guys get too nervous to have fun. just shake what your mamma gave ya and have a good time with it. no one really "dances" anymore, unless theyre dancers...but thats different. rap-ish songs just nod your head all pimp like... its easy. Its also fun to see what dance moves someone around you is doing and then try to copy them (but do it all silly and dramatic like as a joke) shows youve got a sense of humor... then again if you dont h ave one, dont do that ^.^

my best advice (as a girl whos seen many types of boys at dances) is to just be yourself, if that means dancing or not or just goofing around. Heck if all else fails, just do the chicken dance to all songs. *proceeds to sing the chicken dance music and dance*

 

Yea, thanks everyone, I think I'll just screw around and have fun. Chicken dance, I might have to resort to that one right there. Well wish me luck with this girl!

 

Before you go here is some last minute advice that I used. It doesn't matter if you suck (hell i sure do) but as long as you have fun. That is what counts. No one here can teach you how to dance using just words so just groove to the music and you will be fine. You will have a lot more fun and the girl will like you more.

 

Hear the voice of experience: do not dance too close to someone flailing their legs. I was barely able to stand after I made this mistake.
Considering that most of the music played at dances is either crappy pop or crappy techno, just try not to look stupid. No one expects you to do choreography or to go into a whole Michael Jackson thing. Besides, depending on the dance and the caliber of the others there, either no one will care how you dance or they'll all be just as bad or worse.
Relax.
Of course, this comes from the definitive WORST dancer in the Western Hemisphere, so just go for it.

 

So when is the school dance? Ask her out the next time you see her. If she says no, don't feel too bad.

 

Dancing... nu uh, i best not tell you my method... it involves emptying half the bar. ^_^'