Psychology Negative emotions.

Hi there!

I am very new here as you can see, anyway.
Negative emotions. Somebody is sitting in their room and have their favorite song on. The light is on. They have just been eating their favorite food. No problems with their body, and they are lying in their soft bed. But still is it possible to feel very bad inside. When somebody do, they can't even get any sleep or do anything at all.

Do we have answers for our negative emotions? Also I mean to worry, the emptiness, the loneliness, and so on. We don't want to feel them because they don't feel good.

But then again; why does love feel so good? I have no idea. Do you? I would love to hear what you have in mind! Probably everyone are thinking about this sometime. If not; I am weird.

Evanji

 

What's bad is when you like having the negative emotions. My roommate and I were discussing this last night, and we both admitted to this. The adrenaline rush you get when you are angry can be very addicting, and it can make you allow yourself to be constantly at the edge of a blood rage, which cannot be a healthy way to live. On the otherside there's the feeling of relief you get when you cry, but you have to learn when to stop yourself because depression can be very hard to get out of once you fall in. I realized that different people have many ways of dealing with these feelings, and I personally tend to internalize mine. As a result of keeping all these bad feelings to myself, I usually make myself physically sick.

To be honest, I find love to be one of the most painful, confusing emotions of all. Yes, there's the love of one's family, but then there's the love of relationships and friendships. That's where I have my problems. I have friends that I must honestly say I hate and love at the same time. Some repulse me, I can't stand them, but I can't help but love them. Then there's those that you think you should love, but can't seem to make yourself care. Last but not least, there's that one person that you more than anything in the world, but you are unsure of how to show your real feelings for them. This is just my personal experience and views, but that's how I feel. So yeah, you're not the only one who thinks about this stuff.

 

One point love can not be an emotion , it is a statement meant to heard and said or writen, but at the same time it isn't meant to be heard and said not even writen.
You must know and keep in mind that you have control if you still live or die intill it is your true time that has been set forth for you *dont belive in that though for i think you live intill your body can no longer take it or you mind is in need of deep rest*
Wither you wish to belive love an emotion is your choice for that is your opinion but still negative emotions help us in many ways too.
you must understand that everything is meant to be good and bad for us all, there is nothing that can only be good or only bad.
that is my opinion.

 

Maybe love isn't a single emotion, but a group of different ones that point to it. I was going to disagree and say that love is an emotion, but now that i think about it, its probably a status rather then an emotion.

Although bad emotions are.... well bad, i think its not a good idea to keep them bottled up. Although i'm not really a psycologst, i've seen things (mostly films) about people keeping their emotions bottled up for to long and they end up taking on a personallaty of their own. And its these different personallities that can be very distructive, either to people around them or themselves, maybe even both.
Bad emotions are all about growing up, to me it kinda seems like a test to see how people deel with these bad emotions and that can be a definetion of what that person is like.

 

Bad emotions are to be used for many things but take into consideration that wither you may handle the pain and weild it as a blade that inorder to swing takes piece by piece your soul away ...

 

Emotions are natural, and there are many ways to deal with stress (which cause "negative emotions"), according to Freud.

Denial - Acting like something bad never happened. For instance a wife who still sets the place on the table for her husband who died.

Repression - Forcing painful memories and thoughts back into the unconscious. For instance a person may forget a person who picked on them when they were younger.

Projection - The belief that someone else is carrying a trait or belief that you actually have yourself. Ex. A person may yell at a person calling them racist when they actually aren't, but that person is racist themself.

Regression - Going back to an earlier stage in development where there wasn't so much stress on that person. For instance, if something bad happens to a child while they potty train they may go to the washroom in their pants 'by accident'.

Displacement - Focusing their negative emotions, or even sexual energy, on another person, object, or activity. An example of this is artists, really art is a great way to alleviate stress. But, they can also do this by yelling at other people or being a total grouch.

Rationalization - Making up some kind of explanation to explain a bad event that occurred. For instance, a person who may feel guilty for cheating on the test may claim that they wouldn't have passed if they didn't, or 'everyone is doing it'.

Another neat way, I find, is that of contagion. If you're around people who are miserable then you're likely to become miserable yourself. But, if you're feeling miserable just go and hang out with some happy people and you'll most likely become happy, even if it is temporary.

Love is a touchy subject. Every person has a need for affiliation with other people, to have relationships, to love, and to co-operate - Our very survival in infancy is dependent on this need (Wade, 2004). I think love is more or less instinctual and a survival thing, but it sure does feel like more, maybe I'm just a romantic XD

 

Hi!

Thank you all for your explanations and opinions.

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Originally Posted by, That guy!

Emotions are natural, and there are many ways to deal with stress (which cause "negative emotions"), according to Freud.
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Emotions are natural? I don't understand what you mean. I know that emotions are common for at least humans. So emotions are like "invisible things" in us that we just have? It got to be a reason, but not necessary ment to let people feel happy and sad.

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stress (which cause "negative emotions"), according to Freud
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So when for example a girl loses her boyfriend, and she starts to cry, is because she really is "stressed"? Then what does stress mean? Example:

I ->
see my dog dead and I start to ->
think extremly much in a short period of time and ->
I feel a negative emotions called ->
sadness.

Is a stressed person someone who thinks harder than he/she is "capable to"?

Sorry if I really bother someone with this strange explanation, but I try to understand what Freud ment with "stress".

That guy! can explain it to me, I guess.

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Repression - Forcing painful memories and thoughts back into the unconscious. For instance a person may forget a person who picked on them when they were younger.
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Painful memories? Why is the memories painful? Also, we all feel bad if someone we like or love very much passes away, but why? "It's just natural"?
Well, it is a good reason to become sad, but what I mean is why does it hurt inside when we lose something or someone we like very much? Is it because "a part of us dies with it/him/her"? If you understand what I mean.

Is it an explanation for the negative emotions? Sorry guys, but I don't feel like having a believable answer yet.

But thanks anyway

 

Let me tell you something. We live in a very vicious cycle here. And its something that I didnt realize until a while ago. No, im not talking about life and death. Of course im talking about emotions. You cannot be sad without once being happy, you cannot become angry without being calm, you cannot be suicidal without loving life (im not sure of this one). Negative emotions come from positive ones just dying off. Just like positive emotions come from negative emotions just dying off. To me there is no such thing as neutral, there is no in between.

 

I think the most emotional people are probably the people who care. You don't get emotional over something you "don't care about", right? So I guess, in a way, apathy is an emotion.

For example, if you don't talk to somebody you care a lot about for a long time, or they seen to be acting cold to you, it hurts a lot more than if it comes from anybody else. If somebody is acting cold to you for no reason, you automatically feel defensive and maybe a little angry. It's "irrational", in a way, but it's a natural reaction, right?

I can be happy one instant, really happy, and then the next thing, something small might totally ruin my euphoria. And then something else'll happen to bring it back.

Whenever I hear somebody being put down, or yelled at, or anything like that, I take a look at the person doing the yelling, and they're often projecting - accusing others of having traits that they themselves have. I notice it most with my sister.

Why does it happen? I think that it's not just natural for humans, but animals as well. I mean, dogs get sad pretty "easily", right?

Love- why does love feel so good? You know, it doesn't always feel good. After all, people have been using the term 'lovesick' for a very long time. It's one of those complex emotions that are just really tough to get around.

 

Well, you bring up some complicated questions, but that's what this forum is for ^_^

These emotions are built in. They aren't from some mystical dimension outside the body, like Plato's Good. To understand how we feel these emotions, you're going to need a bit of a crash course in how the brain works: http://science.howstuffworks.com/brain.htm.

Using certain techniques, such as positron-emmision tomography (PET scans), and magnetic resonance imaging (MRI) researchers can see which part of the brain is being used in different situations. The amygdala is the part of the brain that analyzes sensory information and determines which type of response should be given - which may be a factor in emotions.

The hypothalamus is also responsible for emotion and other survival mechanisms - possibly, if we didn't adapt (or evolve) to react to upsetting and stressful situations the way we do then we would have been wiped out long ago (imagine a lion coming out of nowhere and someone just staring at it blankly.. I'm sure they would get eaten).

 

That Guy as always! He does learn

I would not call them negative emotions, but no you have done it and detailed which they are, here's my opinion

Negative emotions are not 'bad'. They are just the opposite version of our 'positive' emotions, we need them you know? How can you know how happiness is when you never have known sadness? Sadly that's how our world is. Then, why these emotions feel so bad? Well, first read carefuly the previous post. Our brain is programmed to feel terribly bad when experiences bad emotions, that way we can learn about the situation (which caused 'this' bad emotion) and try to not repeat it again. Well, that actually does not fit with all cases, that is why sometimes someones never recover from some situations (i.e. a death friend, etc.).

Love is not an emotion. As with negative emotions, love is also programmed in our brain, but it is programmed to be felt good. The search for love is felt well. To not search it is just worse. But, when something with the loved one is not right, that is when negative feelings appear, making us to change our 'strategy' in order to fix all.

So, almost all is brain-related here. Do you want to add some spiritual explanation here? I'm all ears

 

Emotions. Are they not fun? They lead us in such a way differnet then any other animal. I think that some animals do have emotions. But some studies show they don't. Anyway that isn't the subject here. I agree with the fact love is only a word. But it feels good doesn't it? To lose yourself. The good. the bad, all of it. Onhonestly I have been in real love. And it sucked. I am a victim that is all I'll say on that.

Do you realize there are people who are borned with chemical imbalances that block or destory their emotions. Most become serial killers. No care and they don't think what they did was wrong. It would be a hard world to live in if the top species didn't have their emotions. What would stop them from killing eachother?