Recreation Tips on getting a gf?

It's a line dancing move. Remember Mrs. Skinner's class last year?

 

i'm the wrong person to give advice, but i don'tcare, i'll give it anyway

i like a guy who talks and talks and talks. if ya don't talk ya don't know the person and if ya don't know the person , ya probably won;t be interested. (*whew*, that must have been confuseing) if ur friendly and smile lots , and have the nerve to ask a girl out to her face (which i think takes a lot of balls) you'll be a stud *cokes back a laugh*


ah frig ... seriously? just be yourself i guess..

 

Hmm..
Best advice I can give is to be yourself, you'll find someone who'll like you as you are and not for what you pretend to be. If that's not working, maybe it's time to enact some changes in yourself... Try to be the kind of man who would attract the kind of woman you would like.

-UK

 

You've "just been yourself" your entire life, has it really helped much?

 

Actually, I've been surrounded primarily by friend girls my whole life, I always seem to have more girls than guys as friends, I just haven't hit it off well relationship-wise until recently. And yes, I met her by being myself... actually I met her while I was indulging in my shoujo manga addiction. I love her very much and we have an open relationship without secrets (excepting the fun ones).
I guess what held me back so long was my eternal lack of confidence. Just ask people who know me. Patience and perseverence has let me to a wonderful woman who loves me for who I am, a comfort far greater than any 'benefit' for trying too hard for just anyone of your preferred gender.

-UK
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Love is a many-splendored thing

 

We aren't all so lucky, UK. I think a big danger for a lot of people when they hear "just be yourself" is that they end up interpreting it as "Don't try to impress her".

Bull.

For the love of God, be a snappy dresser! Impress them! Be sure to keep your beliefs on politics, sex and religion quiet until you know where they stand.

 

You bring up a valid point. I think more what I'd like to emphasize is the hobbys/interests angle. Do try to impress, dress up, clean up. But don't pretend to be something you're not.
I don't have much to complain about there, I'm happy now, but I remember what it was like getting rejected over 200 times for first dates. The things that finally worked for me in the end are what I'm saying now. Be who you are, and yes, be the best you that you can be.

-UK
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The one formerly known as 'Friar'

 

the snappy dressing, beliefs and politics are all very well but a bit heavy for a first meeting :sweat2:
just make her laugh. I'm a girl, and i've fallen for that plenty of times! as long as you're friendly and confident you could charm the @$$ off a donkey

 

*sigh* Did you read what I said or did you glaze over it? I said avoid discussing religion, sex and politics. And if you think snappy dressing is "a bit heavy", would you rather your first impression of the man be that of a slob?

Of course you can, just look at this pic of me working my charm.

 

sorry neph i'm sleepy - my bad!
as for the slob part, i thought you were supposed to like a man for who he is, not how he dresses ...but i suppose i would object to a complete slob

from your pic yep, you must have the nack neph! however, the guy next to you doesn't look too impressed...

 

Designated Dave was jealous, drunk and had work shortly.

 

Okay guys be nice.

Go up to her and introduce yourself talk to her. Ask her for a piece of paper. Write "Will you go out with me?" That way you don't have to say it.

Shhh people it worked on me. Plus it is a very cute idea. But I first had to like the guy before I said yes. You wont know till you try.

 

Well it depends on ages here (of both you and the girl). If you're 20 something years old then Basher's idea may prove a bit immature, but that sort of thing may work at a high school age.

I'm really not the best person to give advice about this sort of thing (can't exactly speak from personal experience here ), but I think the best plan is to work your way into her heart as a friend, if nothing else at first. Some girls generally lean towards the "Friends first" idea, at least that way they have some sort of an idea of what they're getting themselves into. Talk to her, make her laugh, and see if your personalities are even compatible before trying to pursue anything more. After all, true love is based on both friendship and acceptance (other things too of course), I mean, do you really think you can love somebody if you don't even consider yourselves friends?

 

Here's the best advice I can give.

Make eye contact.

It may be hard, but it doesn't make a girl feel very good if you can't look her in the face.

 

Ok, well after the longest time, someone asked me to say what happened with me and this girl. So I guess you all deserve to know the outcome since you al helped me on this tedious journey for a girlfriend.

Basically, everytime I walked up to talk to her, her big fat friend would stand in my way and tell her to leave. I had no chance to talk to her since he was always around her. Eventually I heard he wanted to kick my *** for liking his best friend. Everyone told me to beat the crap outta him since everyone knew I could, but that wouldn't be the best thing to do, kick the crap outta the best friend of the girl I like. So I eventually gave up.

 

Well I'm never had a girlfriend before (which is quite a bad feeling weighting down on me since I'm 18 and no girl even liked me before).
Well there's one girl, but that's an online relationship, but we never gave up on eachother for 2,5 years now. It's something really precious to me.

So people can be bland about online relationships, but when I'll finally get to meet her, I know her personality, I know the things she likes best, what makes her happy and what could make her sad... I'd probably go for the looks first if I would approach a girl in real life, which isn't likely to happen since
a) I'm too shy
b) if I start talking anyway, I spout nonsense..
c) I love "my girl" too much, I'd feel bad about it.

Ah well, I suggest, do it your own way. Follow someone's advice and it might not even turn out the way you thought it should have (or the way people told you it might have turned out).
Just... don't look for girlfriends just for the sake of having one. Too many freaking kids who do that and just as many freaking kids I hate for doing that... (loaded frustration = me)

 

just moon-walk over to her in your best disco outfit and slip her some rohypnol. It takes all the guess work out of dating. :catgirl:
no need to give up, as everyone else said, persistence!. chances are he's after her, which is why you pissed him off.

everyone?, does everyone know you like her, does she?
and i'd agree with you, if he's a good friend of her's, beating the crap out of him probably isn't a good move. always think smooth, hire someone to club him in the kneecap.

 

Ahh, but you see, that's what telephones are for